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![]() Since I was young I have witnessed some cruel things done to my friends such as people calling them fat, four eyes, weak, dumb, ugly etc. And sometimes it was so consistent, that I had to stand up for them. I always told the people making fun of my friends: "Hey its wrong what you’re doing everyone is beautiful and smart just the way they are." To fit in, children want to follow the crowd and take a simple thing like glasses someone wears to read better and call them "Four eyes”. The thing is during teenage years, the child could already be critical of themselves and have self- esteem problems and still trying to find himself and their place in the world. Having added pressure, teasing, hate, or any form of prejudice or discrimination is only going to emotionally drain these children out. Bullies come in all shapes and sizes and this is why there are several reasons why someone could bully. It could be temperament, size, peer-pressure, self-esteem, the child themselves experienced bullying or a child going through a serious problem at home. There are several types of bullying. One example is physical bullying and that is when the bully uses their strength to kick, hit, slap, or shove someone to get them to do their h/w for them or give them their lunch money. The second is Verbal bullying which is teasing or name calling to gain power and control over the victim. The bully chooses someone who is in-defensive and most often kids with special needs are the target and it is always done when there is no adult around so it’s always one person’s word against the other and then it’s hard to identify. Prejudicial bullying is when teens have prejudices towards people of a different race, religion or sexual orientation. They then seek out to verbally, emotionally or physically hurt them. This kind can cause hate crimes and should always be reported. Emotional and Cyber-bullying are similar because when both of them are done; the bully can harass, threaten, embarrass and spread rumors to seek to hurt their peers and sabotage their social standing. Lastly, sexual bullying is when crude comments are said about a girl’s appearance, attractiveness and sexual development so that her reputation is ruined. This might even invite a guy to think that she is eagerly ready or easy when in reality that is not true and then want to engage in sexual activity and/ or may lead to sexual assault. An example of this is a girl bully. She can like a guy but her admirer likes another girl that is smart and pretty. And since, the bully has self-esteem issues on her physical development and is jealous or intimidated by the other girl, she seeks to discredit her: To take away attention from her target, she spreads a rumor about how she dates a lot of men, drinks a lot and is easy so this shines the light on her so she can get attention from the guy she likes. In 2013, researchers followed a population-based sample of 1,420 children aged 9, 11 and 13 from 11 counties in western North Carolina who were enrolled in the Great Smoky Mountain Study. The research revealed that 26%(421 subjects) said that they were bullied. Both boys and girls reported similar rates of bullying. 200 kids (9.5% of the group admitted that they bullied someone. Out of 112, 86% were bullies themselves. So as you can see bullying is a serious issue and it has only gotten worse over the years. They also found that those who have been bullied were at a higher risk of developing a psychiatric disorder than those who have not been bullied. In particular, those who had only been bullied had higher levels of depressive disorder, anxiety disorders, panic disorders and agoraphobia. Back when I was in middle school, I remember having these puffy braids that my mom had me wear. And I remember thinking. Why? Why is she doing this to me? Boy I hated those braids! Because everyone had permed or naturally straight and long hair and I just wanted to “FIT IN” Instead I got made fun of. I defended myself every time and acted as if it didn’t bother me but deep inside, I just wanted to cry. When I got my perm before I went to high school, my hair was longer and luscious. It was then, I realized that my mom only had me wear those braids along with moisturizers and other products to help it grow. I now thank my mother for doing that. Nowadays, I not only have thick skin but also don’t really pay any mind to what people think or say about me. I always think: “Oh this person must have an issue going on” and I shrug it off and keep it moving. But I still remember those emotions I felt when someone made fun of me repeatedly. Now if that’s the only thing that I went through in middle school and it affected me that bad: JUST IMAGINE what systematic constant bullying can do to a person. The article/video linked below shows 5 boys ganging up on a teen. This video is shocking and sad to me. I think about what kind of emotional and serious physical pain that this boy went through but also what the bully must be going through as well and what parents can do to help the child stop bullying on the aggressor and victim’s side. No parent wants to find out that their child is a bully because you wouldn’t like to think that your child would do such a thing. And this is why, a parent should not refer the child as a bully but instead find out the reason why he/she is doing the act. If your child is doing it because they themselves got bullied, talk to them about the incident(s) and teach them retaliation against others is not the key because another child is not to blame of what happened and encourage them not to do it again. If they have a lot of hurt build up their self-esteem. If it is because of peer pressure, tell them that its ok to stand up to peer pressure and say No and that no one can tell what to do and that bullying is a choice and the choice to make friends than hurt someone is better. If the problem escalades and your child is threatened to bully others, speak to your child’s teacher and try to find a peaceful solution between you, your child, the child’s parents and the child itself. If your child is bullying to try and fit it, teach them the importance of choosing their friends wisely and that the friends they make, have a big influence on the person they will become in the future. If your teacher has taken action and given your child the consequences for bullying, support the teacher and fully support the decision instead of taking your child’s side because tough love can teach the child that bullying is wrong and that there are consequences to their actions. If needed be, one on one therapy or family counseling can help the child have an outside perspective and can help them change their ways. If the child is being bullied, teach your child non-violent ways to deal with bullies like walking away, talking to friends or talking it out. God said “LOVE ONE ANOTHER AS I LOVED YOU.” (John 13:34:(NIV) There is nothing more beautiful than showing gentleness and kindness to a person and that will not only cheer up the person but it will also make you feel good inside for expressing love. Please STOP BULLYING and choose LOVE. Love is the force that can crush war, crime, and pain. It breaks barriers between those that hate each other. Build peace and unity between all of God’s children all across the world and elevate his kingdom with endless love for eternity! Let us STOP BULLYING and spread LOVE. :) Link to video of teenage boy physically bullied: http://bit.ly/1VPMA7S
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